This, well, morning, I was a featured expert on Good Morning America. It's my fifth visit to discuss dating and relationships with the morning team. It was as thrilling (and nerve wracking and adrenaline inducing) as my first ever live TV segment many years ago. I spend hours preparing/ practicing at home for three minute segments that go by so fast. There are no dress rehearsals or do overs.
You can watch the segment HERE:
The topic today was women making the first move in the dating world. A new study from OK Cupid found that the dating odds favor of women who reach out to guys first over women who wait to be contacted. And the men those women reach out to tend to be more attractive,
On the segment, we mostly talked about how women making the first move plays out in the real world. And yes, I think it's a grand idea, one that I've advocated for years.
I know some of you are thinking, "D, what? I gotta start hollering at guy? You trying to have me out here looking thirsty?"
No ma'am and never that. I'm not saying you hit up guys with, "What's good, Pa?" That ain't God's plan for you.
I am, however, suggesting that this is your life and you should be an active participant in it. And that when you see a man you might be interested in, you don't let him leave the room without knowing that you are interested and available. That means when you see a cutie, you smile and say hi so he knows you're friendly (and like, you brush). And you pay him a compliment (so he knows you are confident, you like what you see, and again, you're friendly) and/or you ask him a question (you are willing to engage in conversation).
My opening "line" for years was walking to a guy, telling him I liked his shirt and asking where he got it from. Guys would tell me the store, the day, the time, and sometimes would have me reach in the shirt so I could see the label. As a goof at the club, my friends and I would say something stupid, like, "did you eat before you got here?" and ask guys what they had for dinner. We would get the meal rundown for the entire day. You can ask almost anything as long as you have a smile on your face and seem genuinely friendly. If you're completely awkward (and you will be if you've never done it before), and he asks, "huh?" just be honest. I thought you were attractive, I wanted to say something, and that was the first thing that popped in my head. Then laugh.
That's all you need to do. If he is remotely interested, he will take it from there. I'm advocating for making the first move, not all the moves. I'm trying to make sure you never have another one of those times where you see a guy, say nothing, and he leaves never to be seen again, and you spend the whole night wishing you had said something. That sucks.
Would you be wiling to make the first move?
Oh, and because it's a popular question: yes, Michael Strahan is fine, even finer, in person. He's cute and also super charming. It was second nature to him to hold out his hand for me to take the tiny step up onto the stage. And he smells like heaven and freshly showered man. A lot of you have asked. LOL.
Thanks for watching (and reading).