30 Things You Should Know By 30 (part I)

If you've been reading long enough, you know every year on my birthday, I make a list of things you should know by whatever age I'm turning. I didn't do it this year because... well, I turned 30 and I had other things wanted to talk about. So here's the first 15. I'll post the rest (from my beachside cabana) tomorrow.

 

*Know that if he is The One, he would be The One. When it works, it's pretty simple with only minor hiccups, ie. it works. When you're forcing it? It's not working. Β Stop and look for the Next One (this goes in every list because no matter how many times I write it, I get emails from women wondering what to do with a man who clearly isn't interested.)

*Love is a verb. Having the emotion means absolutely nothing if it's not followed through with action.

*Complaining about Black men will not make them somehow better. It will only make you bitter. The good guys outnumber the assholes. Go find them.

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