28 Years Later

July 9 is my 28th birthday. In the days leading up, I always take stock of where I am and where I want to be. To acknowledge the day in years past, I've written blogs about the things that every woman should know by whatever age I'm turning. This year, I've been inspired in a different direction. I was at church today and my pastor said this: "You may not be where you want to be, but thank God you are not where you were." That line got me to thinking about all the things that I've learned about relationships and men in the last 28 years. Lord knows I've encountered my share of BS, but I don't regret any of it. I've grown and learned from my mistakes. I still have a long way to go, but I thank God everyday that I am not where I was.

Most of the lessons I learned are very simple and very obvious but were very hard to get nonetheless. I made a list of (only) 28 of them. They are all things that I wish someone had told me or things someone told me that I didn't listen to. I know there are a whole lot more that I know and haven't written and plenty that I just don't know yet. Post your comments at the end and add what I left off.

If he doesn't call, he's not interested. Period.

Friends last longer than boyfriends.

It's impossible to fill a spiritual void with a physical act.

Men are insecure too.

If he says he's not ready for a relationship, believe him.

 

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